Behavioral Changes

When someone cuts us off in traffic we don't act in a way that is abnormal to our conditioning. We have a response ready to go that has been ingrained in us long before we could drive.The first time someone cut us off we responded as we saw someone else do or as we think is appropriate. While current state of mind and the outlook on the day can increase or diminish these responses they have been programmed in us. 
So how do we get past these ingrained actions and create newer and better responses?

• Acknowledge the programming
• Understand why we do what we do
• Make a conscious effort to change the behaviour
• Continue to improve the behavior and outcomes 

While these may seem like simple steps you can do in a day or a week. It is not quite that simple. These traits or scripts have been written deep into the gray matter of our minds. Some experts believe that we can form new habits in 7 days while others maintain it can take up to 30.

Pick a habit that you currently have, something easy, like what do you do when you get home from work. What do you do in the morning. Take an easy example and try these simple steps out for 30 days.

Were you able to change the behavior, why or why not? What triggers did you find that made you feel safe or at peace when you did them? What made you uncomfortable? Now go a little deeper and try to remember why these new or different actions resulted in these feelings?

People have frames in their minds that create who they are and the way they see. When you can identify why you can or cannot change a behavior, you can begin to understand the why.